There are many reasons that we are adopting, but here are the big 6:
1. We’re adopting because there are 153 million orphans in the world and while we know we can’t make a dent in that number, we can make a difference in the life of one orphan and hopefully inspire other families to do the same.
2. God has blessed us with so much. We have three wonderful kids and a loving home. We have health, stability, a great job, friends and family. We have been given everything we need to provide a loving home for a child in need.
3. Orphan care is a key part of the Christian story. James 1:27 says “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.” True Christianity looks beyond itself to the care of those in greatest need. Even back in the first century Christians were profoundly counter-cultural in that they became known for rescuing abandoned roman infants and raising them as their own.
4. Ultimately, we are adopting because we are sure that God has called us to. When Jeremy was born we felt confident and at peace about being finished having biological children, but always thought that someday God would call us to add to our family through adoption. More recently as our kids are getting older (currently 4, 6 and 8) and as we moved into a bigger home a year ago, we feel that God’s timing is now. (Our agency requires adopted children follow birth order of children already in the family, and that there be a 1 year age gap between the youngest and the adopted child. This means only now can we adopt a child up to 3 years of age.)
5. We’re adopting as a reflection of the gospel. In Christ we are adopted by grace into God’s family becoming his sons and daughters. In his classic Knowing God, J.I. Packer wrote “adoption is the highest privilege that the gospel offers…. In adoption, God takes us into his family and fellowship—he establishes us as his children and heirs. Closeness, affection and generosity are at the heart of the relationship. To be right with God the Judge [justification] is a great thing, but to be loved and cared for by God the Father [adoption] is a greater.” So we adopt because we were first adopted by God. In adoption we are imitating God our Father.
6. And finally, we are adopting because it will push us beyond our ability and means and drive us into deeper trust of God and reliance on others. We believe this is not a journey for us to take alone, but to walk with our community and in deeper and deeper dependance on the God who is calling us. It will be hard and we cannot do it alone. And that’s probably the best place we could be.