What Adoptive Families Wish You Knew

A very sweet friend of mine sent me to this link today. It’s a blog post written by a woman in the US who has two biological kids and two adopted boys (one a toddler, and one at 16 years old) both from Ethiopia. It’s called How to Support the Family who is Adopting and What Adoptive Families Wish You knew.

And it’s spot on.

And I wept when I read it.

To know that all that I’m thinking and feeling …. normal. I’m in the throws of #4 right now and my heart hurts so deeply some days that the ache is real and physical.

Her words are so helpful. So honest.

So please, those who love and support us here, would you hop on over and read these words? I could have written them myself.


Letter Sent!!

The long awaited letter sent on our agency’s behalf from the BC government to the Guinean government has f i n a l l y been sent…ok, sent again…but this time to the correct person and in the correct language.

Please join us in praying that we hear back from Guinea remarkably quick, and that they don’t just put this letter aside (though they are dealing with a massive epidemic right now) and that we can formally get the ball rolling and be another step closer to bringing home our little one from Source de Vie!

Home safety check – passed!

Thank you for your prayers! Homestudy interview #2 went very well. It began with one child having a meltdown at two minutes to scheduled start time. Not what I’d hoped for but kind of what I’d expected. But God in his grace had our Social Worker think our meeting was for later. So when I texted her 20 minutes after scheduled start time she was very apologetic and rushed over here to find us suuuuper ready and waiting and (now) quite happy.

The kids were their charming chatty selves. The highlight was as she asked them questions about their thoughts on a new sibling. Jeremy then told her he was getting a brother and Eva was getting a new sister, to which Noah commented, “five kids??” his big blue eyes wide! Serious laughs over that one.

We passed the home safety check no problem, and she was much easier on us than I expected. (I’m usually over-prepared for things in my life!) Now to try and enjoy a super clean house this morning for a few moments before it gets destroyed lived in by children. What a relief to know that our house is officially safe for children! (And mostly to know that part is over!)

We put the kids to bed and chatted with our SW about them,
their personalities and how we think they will do with a new sibling. We also filled out separate confidential questionnaires about alcohol and drug use, abuse, pornography use etc. about us, each other, and our families. It’s designed to root out any “secrets” and give her material to talk to us about in our individual interviews next week. Steve and I discussed it after, and it made is so very thankful for Gods grace in our lives having saved us from so many things and to have been brought up in safe and healthy families. We are so thankful.

So thank you for your prayers yesterday. We felt them! Next up is Melissa’s individual session on Tuesday and Steve’s on Wednesday.

We are flying through this thing as quickly as we are able. Deep breath!

Up to date update.

Just a quick note to say that we had our first homestudy interview and it went very well. Our social worker is super rad, which is convenient as we’ll be seeing a lot of her the next few months.

I’m super scared so happy to be getting the home tour/home safety check done right away – on Tuesday. You know, to make sure our home is suitable for children…uh…. As well, she will be meeting and talking with our three kiddos at that time. So prayers are appreciated for all.

Our planning meeting with our friends went well last week. We are so blessed to have a small army behind us loving on and supporting us! In process is an amazing fundraising event that involves cake coming in November….stay tuned for details!

I’ve been amazed at how emotional I’m becoming over this adoption process in thinking, talking about and praying for our little one…with no pregnancy hormones to blame this time. God is working well in this mama’s heart these days! When out of the blue Jeremy showed me this picture he made and said, “this is for my new brudda or sista.” I wept.

We try to be so intentional in preparing our kids and in teaching them about adoption. And in his own little three year old way, I think he gets it. What an incredible privilege it is to parent these little souls.